Get The Guy shows you the 10 secret signs a guy is flirting. If he's confident, you'll know soon enough – he'll find ways to gently touch your arm when he's. The least flirtatious and romantic touches were the shoulder push, shoulder tap, and handshake. Thus, touching that is gentle and informal, and. Tip #3 – Touch These Spots for Maximum Flirting! When touching a woman, stick to the shoulders, upper arms and the upper back area. A soft touch on any of.